I hope you learn humility by being humiliated, and that you learn honesty by being cheated. I hope you learn to make your own bed and mow the lawn and wash the car. And I really hope nobody gives you a brand new car when you are sixteen. It will be good if at least one time you can see puppies born and your old dog put to sleep. I hope you get a black eye fighting for something you believe in. I hope you have to share a bedroom with your sister or brother. And it's all right if you have to draw a line down the middle of the room, but when he or she wants to crawl under the covers with you because they're scared, I hope you let them. When you want to see a movie and your little brother or sister wants to tag along, I hope you'll let them. I hope you have to walk uphill to school with your friends and that you live in a town where you can do it safely. On rainy days when you have to catch a ride, I hope you don't ask your driver to drop you two blocks away so you won't be seen riding with someone as uncool as your Mom. If you want a slingshot, I hope your Dad teaches you how to make one instead of buying one. I hope you learn to dig in the dirt and read books. When you learn to use computers, I hope you also learn to add and subtract in your head. I hope you get teased by your friends when you have your first crush on a girl or boy, and when you talk back to your mother that you learn what ivory soap taste like. May you skin your knee climbing a mountain, burn your hand on a stove and stick your tongue on a frozen flag pole. If a friend offers you dope or a joint, I hope you realize that he or she is not your friend. I sure hope you make time to sit on a porch with your Grandpa and fish with your Uncle. May you feel sorrow at a funeral and joy during the holidays. I hope your mother punishes you when you throw a baseball through your neighbor's window and that she hugs you and kisses you at Christmas time when you give her a plaster mold of your hand. These things I wish for you ---though times and disappointment, hard work and sweet happiness. To me, it's the only way to appreciate life.
We secure friends not by accepting favors but by doing them.